Too Late to Apologize–and to be Grateful?

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My oldest daughter was home from college for the past week on spring break (one of the reasons I didn’t post a “Wednesday’s Word” column for the past two Wednesdays). What a delight! Her stated objectives for the break were to relax, bake cookies, and “give us a break.”

She wanted “to be helpful” and relieve us of some of our responsibilities

She wanted to say “thanks” for all we do to support her in college.

She wanted to tell us all about her classes, her hopes and her goals.

Best part? She actually was helpful. She even woke up at 4:30 in the morning one day to take her dad to the airport on a quick business trip. She kept us well-supplied in her famous ginger-laced, secret-recipe chocolate chip cookies, baking not one, but two batches. She drove Amanda to school and home from tennis practice and everywhere else she needed to go. As for those shared hopes and goals? They all relate to her love for Jesus Christ and her desire to serve him with her summer job  at camp and her future career working with high school kids.

Can a parent be any prouder?

Which brings me to my apology. Mom, Dad, I’m so sorry that I never expressed such a desire to be helpful when I was home on vacation during my college years. So sorry that I didn’t even think about how I could relieve you of some of your responsibilities! So sorry that I took for granted all the tuition checks and long drives back and forth from Ohio to Chicago! It feels great to have my own child express her deep appreciation, and I wish I had given you  a little more satisfaction.

Please know that I’m so grateful for all of your support over the years, and I’m especially excited and grateful for the many ways you have been with me during this journey called Publishing a Novel. Whew! We’re almost to the finish line, and it’s been a team effort. Thank you for all the reading of manuscripts, thoughtful comments, questions, cards and gifts of encouragement along the way. Even all grown up, I couldn’t have done it without you.

Now, if I can just figure out how to get my daughter to wash the mixing bowl and cookie sheets when she’s done baking the cookies. . . .

I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth (3 John 4).

QUESTION: What do the young people in your life do better than you did at their age? Share it in the comments!

BOOK NEWS: Be on the lookout for a new title, a cover reveal, and a release date! My wonderful publisher has been working on the edits and cover art, and it’s beginning to feel like the finish line is in sight!

About Sonja Anderson

I write novels and short stories for children, and occasionally a book or article for adults, too. I grew up in Ohio, and I have lived in Chicago, Connecticut, Boston, Tokyo, and Seattle. The beautiful Pacific Northwest inspires me every day.
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5 Responses to Too Late to Apologize–and to be Grateful?

  1. Lovely post Sonja and your daughter seems like such a kind-hearted and thoughtful young lady. I don’t have children of my own, but recently my thirteen year old nephew was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. He has been so brave through the whole thing, enduring finger pokes and insulin shots. I’m so proud of him. I’m sure I would not be so brave if it was me. God bless him.


  2. What a beautiful story about your nephew. Thank you for sharing it! My daughter’s college roommate was diagnosed with the same thing as a teenager. It has inspired her chosen career of being a nurse, so she can educate all the young people about diabetes; her disease is genetic, but many others can prevent the Type 2 version by their own health efforts.

    I’ll pray for your nephew. This is such a life-changing diagnosis!

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  3. Debbie Austin says:

    What a lovely post!

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  4. gasamie says:

    I loved this post and your question. Now that I am re-reading it, though, I realize I have been thinking about a different question. You asked what a young person in my life does better than I did at her age. Well, I’ve been considering what my daughter does better than I do now. I’m not sure if I was better at this when I was 4 years old, but I have a hunch that I was and I have lost the ability over time. What my daughter does wonderfully, beautifully well is forgive and forget. She doesn’t hold a grudge nor dwell on any unpleasantness of the past. I can traumatize her with combing or washing her hair or I can quash her fashion plans when I discover her gluing sequins on her clothes. Sure, she can throw a major tantrum, but after that, it’s done and forgotten. The next minute she is full of love and smiles and onto the next thing. I’m not sure that I am envious of her hot and cold emotions, but I do envy her ability to leave the past in the past. […and the fact that this is also a quote from Frozen is not lost on me!]


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